The holiday season can be, for many people, kind of intense. There’s a lot of financial and social stressors occurring simultaneously, along with tons of “family togetherness.” You’re also bombarded with images of what the holidays (and a marriage) should be like. All that can make you keenly aware of how your own situation fails to measure up in comparison.
That’s why the Monday of the first full week in January has gained a reputation as “divorce day,” as many disillusioned spouses make their first trek to a family law attorney’s office seeking a divorce. Indeed, all of January typically sees an uptick in the number of people who decide to end their marriages.
If you’re among the many people facing the reality that their marriage is somehow broken, take heart: Divorce is definitely not the worst that can happen. In fact, you may ultimately find it freeing.
Here are some questions you should ask yourself before taking the next step:
- What are your primary concerns with divorce? Are they related to finances, e.g., the money you need to start over in a new place or a fair division of the marital property? Are you mostly concerned about the custody of your children? Knowing your focus can help you decide where to expend your energy.
- Do you think your spouse will accept the divorce? If your spouse is amenable to a peaceful parting, it may be possible to get a dissolution or use mediation to end your marriage. Both can be less costly and less traumatic than a litigated divorce. If you don’t believe your spouse will work with you, however, it’s important to consider the possibility of a litigated divorce from the start.
- How ready are you for the changes? Once you set a divorce in motion, things can happen rather quickly. Make sure that you are emotionally, financially and physically prepared for the shift. Make copies of all of your financial documents, set up a new bank account and gather up your essential personal items just in case you have to make a quick exit.
If you’re ready to end an unhappy marriage, contact our office today to learn how we can help.