In an ideal world, there wouldn’t be a situation whereby parents would have to sit down at a negotiation table to sort out how to best share their time with their kids. Things happen, and you may not have any other choice but to broker an agreement with your ex over custody, though.
While it may seem like focusing on what works best for your schedule as a parent would work best, the court is going to expect you to do what’s in the best interests of your kids. Child psychologists would suggest that developmental factors may impact what’s in your child’s best interests. You may want to apprise yourself of what those are before you sit down to work out a parenting plan with your ex.
What custody arrangement works best for infants and toddlers?
Your infant or toddler can grow by leaps and bounds in a matter of days. It’s unlikely that you want to miss one of their first times doing anything. An infant may be unable to spend extensive time away from their mother if they’re breastfeeding or not yet on a sleep schedule.
Children tend to enjoy a profoundly trusting connection with their caregivers in infancy and as toddlers. Any extended breaks from these individuals can be detrimental to your bond with them. They may also begin to show signs of depression and behavioral regression the more time that lapses between a young child’s visits with their caregiver.
What custody schedule works best for preschoolers or kindergarteners?
Parents who have two-and-a-half to 5-year-olds often marvel at how their children become increasingly vocal about their feelings and grow in independence. Kids this age can generally cope well with spending an extended period away from a caregiver, something that may allow for overnights or extended stays at each parent’s home. You may want to start by instituting shorter visits, gradually increasing them over time.
Working out a custody schedule for your child
Any situation in which you have to reach a compromise with someone else can be challenging. It’s particularly, so such discussions involve you making decisions about the person most near and dear to you. An attorney can help mediate such discussions to ensure you reach a compromise in the end.